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Come into the Unknown with Us!

Upcoming Workshops and Festivals

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Apr 18

Apr 18, 2025 – Apr 20, 2025

Masculinities | A Festival

Apr 18, 2025 – Apr 20, 2025

Eros brings us into connection with the unknown.

You could call it the Mysteries.

At Erotic Living we bring the Curious and the Brave into Connection with the Unknown by curating Spaces of Permission.

Peter Banki, Ph.D.

Founder, Erotic Living

What is a Space of Permission?

Who Are We

Peter Banki, Ph.D is the Founder and Director of Erotic Living. He is an entrepreneur and scholar, who specialises in dreaming up highly innovative events and concepts. He is known for his philosophical depth and vulnerability, as well as his fearlessness in taking action. Find out more >>

The EL Catalysts

Our programs are led by a small team of erotic catalysts who dare to live with more joy, not afraid to question society’s prejudices and judgements about love and sexuality.

Mentoring for the Curious and the Brave

Here is some of what we teach

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Feeling Safe Through Co-Regulation

If you don’t feel safe, you can’t open up or connect deeply with yourself or with another. Co-Regulation is one of the most profound and effective ways to learn to feel safe with someone else.

Intimately Tying Your Partner

Erotic Rope Bondage is a powerful way to create intimacy between people. When you play with rope, you feel the rich pallet of human feelings and this can have a healing aspect.

How to Negotiate a BDSM Session

Negotiation is a key part of practicing BDSM. In this post we give some tips about negotiation and illustrate it with a video of us negotiating and then playing.

How to Use the Hitachi Magic Wand

The Hitachi Magic Wand is a very powerful tool to create arousal. In this post Peter and Natalia talk about the role the Hitachi Magic Wand Plays in their sex life.

How to Insert a B-Plug

For anal play we follow Jack Morin’s rule: NO PAIN EVER. In this post we give a few tips for safe and blissful anal explorations.

Sharing the Porn We Like

Sharing the porn we like with people we trust is one of the simplest and most powerful things we can do to confront shame around sexuality. In this post we talk about how to do that.

The Erotic Possibilities of Breath

Joseph Kramer believes that we make better decisions when we listen to our breath and our bodies. In this video, he takes us on a journey into the ecstatic possibilities of the breath.

How do Grief and Pleasure Mix?

How can we allow the fire of grief to become a medicine that transforms us? Do we dare to be heart-broken, to let the things we experience deeply touch us?

Women Thinking Outside the Box

Sexually permissive spaces present rich opportunities for women to explore their eroticism and become sexually empowered and realised.

Becoming A Sexually Realised Man

Many men have difficulty getting their sexual needs met. Here are some things you can do to have more fun and grow into a more sexually-realised man

Opening Up as a Couple

Opening your relationship can be empowering and transformative. But how do you do it safely and respectfully? Here are some tips for starting the process.

Erotic Living as Yoga

I asked the Erotic Living team what made them so passionate about this work. In this article I share what I discovered.

The deep purpose of our work

Our work enables you to express and explore your eroticism, deepen your compassion, connect with your vulnerability and question the way you think about life.

Read Peter Banki's Article in the Guardian

“Thank you Erotic Living for making the world a sexier place.”

“Peter Banki is an erotic catalyst. I give him my highest recommendation.”

“Erotic Living is a really unique, important school. The people it attracts are bold, courageous, inquisitive, and charming. We need more spaces like this one.”